Review: The post-baby battleground


Before having children, Megan K. Stack worked as a war correspondent for The Los Angeles Times, a career that proves to be useful preparation for navigating the post-baby battleground. Her husband’s own journalistic work lands her family in China and India, where household help is cheap, and Stack quits her job to work on a book and manage the household.

Women’s Workby Megan K. Stack

Doubleday, 352p $27.95

But even with a nanny and housekeeper in place, Stack struggles to carve out time for her career. Hiring help means her home becomes both a “job site” and a kind of war zone, as the women of the house navigate misunderstandings and cultural differences, as well as violence, injuries and hurts that change the course of lives and friendships.

In Women’s Work: A Reckoning With Work and Home, Stack offers a brutally honest look at her own efforts to navigate the strange dance between her and her employees, who must perform the functions of a family without truly being part of it. Through vivid prose and tight narratives, she actively and effectively dispels the notion that stereotypical “women’s work” should be categorized as a “soft” subject.

Through vivid prose and tight narratives, Megan K. Stack actively and effectively dispels the notion that stereotypical “women’s work” should be categorized as a “soft” subject.

Women’s Work illuminates the shared obstacles that face both mothers who hope to thrive at work and at home and those who are simply trying to survive. But Stack does not shy away from describing how the stakes differ for each. Hiring household help meant that Stack’s sons gained loving caretakers and an international upbringing. But the children of Xiao Li, Mary and Pooja, the women who serve Stack’s household, “got money but grew up without their mothers,” Stack writes.

Stack’s Catholic upbringing influences her understanding of justice, guilt and rituals throughout, and her journalistic background pushes her to ask more and more questions of Xiao Li, Mary and Pooja. The third section of the book focuses on their stories, and the resulting narrative honors the complexity of their experience as women, workers and mothers. But while all three consent to be written about, only Pooja seems to embrace it.

Stack is self-aware and recognizes the fact that even being able to ask questions about work-life balance makes her a part of a privileged class. She concludes with a call for men to do more at home. It is a necessary one. But this tidy answer cannot fully address the central tension of Stack’s narrative, which has no easy solution. The ability to find balance in the midst of her own struggles relies entirely on the work of women who are struggling even more.

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Stanley Kopacz
10 months ago

Traditionally, men did a lot at home. Auto work, plumbing, carpentry, electrical wiring, kitchen remodeling, lawn work. If wives expect their husbands to share in the cleaning and doing the dishes, they should be ready to jack up the car, get a 12mm socket and a strap wrench and change the oil and filter.

J Jones
10 months ago

Kerry, I am fan of your work, and I am grateful you highlighted the central tension of the book, the one left untouched by her proposal of co-parents establish a more equal division of household labor.

Please help me understand the phrase (and headline) "post-baby battleground".

Michael Bindner
9 months 4 weeks ago

I was a stay at home Dad for 2.5 years. I should have dome another. Wife had breadwinner insecurities. Many do, but unless they get over it, men who are told to make more will obey and do so. Let us play golf (pay our greens fees) while kids are in school after housework is done and we will have dinner waiting when wives get home. Wives can't make more as individuals if they expect husbands to make more as a class.


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