How has your faith changed since you became a parent?

Photo by Brittany Simuangco on Unsplash

Eighty-nine percent of the respondents to our survey told us their faith changed when they became parents. A small number of these respondents said that their faith did not necessarily change for the better. For example, an anonymous reader from Ireland said that after becoming a parent, “I really questioned [the need to baptize my child] because I struggled to believe in original sin. I’ve questioned my faith ever since.”

Most respondents said their faith was strengthened. “It has increased my faith,” said Carmen Silva of Azusa, Calif. “I thank God for my daughters and their good health and blessings that we have received.” Many of our respondents also reported more frequent Mass attendance after starting a family.

Advertisement

Similar to Ms. Silva, many respondents described feeling closer to God since having children. “Seeing my children grow reminds me daily of the fragility and beauty of life,” said Greg Gillis of Toronto, Canada. “I see God and Jesus now not only in my children but more closely in all people. The mystery of the incarnation has taken on a new and deeper meaning for me.”

For some readers, their parish involvement changed because they wanted the best for their children. “I chose to become a catechist so my daughter with Down syndrome would not fall behind in receiving sacraments,” wrote Elizabeth Fretwell of McLean, Va.

“I pray more often and attend church on a more regular basis.” Joy Casciotti, Elvira, N.Y.

Olivia Fischer of Marietta, Ga., decided to re-evaluate her own relationship with the church when she became a parent. “After my children came, I fretted that I wasn’t providing them with the same spiritual tools that allowed me to weather troubling times,” wrote Ms. Fischer. “I went to talk to a priest who said I needed to come to church for my own soul first. I needed an oxygen mask on myself before I could help my kids and husband. I had so many personal revelations that year that I leak happy tears just thinking about it.”

Your Take
How would you describe your mass attendance?
Your Take 2
How would you describe your mass attendance? 
Your Take 3
How would you describe your mass attendance?

This article also appeared in print, under the headline "How has your faith changed since you became a parent?" in the October 1, 2018 issue.

Comments are automatically closed two weeks after an article's initial publication. See our comments policy for more.

Advertisement

The latest from america

The ruins of the church where the constitution of Simón Bolívar’s “Gran Colombia” was signed. Photo by Antonio De Loera-Brust
Over one million Venezuelans have arrived in Colombia as of May 2018. Colombia is not a rich country, and helping to bear the burden of receiving thousands of Venezuelan refugees every day is the Catholic Church.
Antonio De Loera-BrustFebruary 18, 2019
Jesuit Father Fernando Cardenal, a Nicaraguan poet and Queen Sofia Prize winner, speaks during a celebration for his 90th birthday at the National Theatre Ruben Dario in Managua, Nicaragua, in January 2015. (CNS photo/Oswaldo Rivas, Reuters)
St. John Paul II had suspended Father Cardenal and several other priests from active ministry in 1985 for joining the Marxist-influenced Sandinista government. Father Cardenal resigned from the Sandinista Front in 1994.
The Vatican will live-stream all the keynote speeches and the interventions of Pope Francis at the upcoming summit on the protection of minors.
Gerard O’ConnellFebruary 18, 2019
My relationship with gospel music was forged not just on those Sunday mornings at home with Jackson and in church with my family but also on late nights in the backseat of a 1962 Chevy Bel Air sedan.
W. Ralph EubanksFebruary 18, 2019