Male discussion groups have proved successful on college campuses, but the exploration of male spirituality can be valuable to men of any age. Listed below are a few resources from the Center for Action and Contemplation, founded by Richard Rohr, O.F.M. You can find a more complete resource list here.
Perhaps you've seen "Rocky." But have you thought about what it says about masculinity? The film, along with others like "The Bicycle Thief" and "Field of Dreams," is included on Fr. Rohr's list of 131 movies that "might prompt good discussions about male issues."
Sign up for updates on topics of male spirituality through the CAC's free, monthly e-newsletter. According the their Web site, it features poetry, essays, photography, movie reviews, information on regional events, and more.
Pick up Fr. Rohr's book From Wild Man to Wise Man. With short, pointed chapters, it's great for small-group discussion.
Don't have access to a group with whom you can discuss these issues? Get in touch with the regional coordinators for Men As Learners and Elders (MALEs), which works to "form an extended network of initiated men and leaders who have an ecumenical vision of Gospel-based male initiation." Learn more here. Regional contacts listed here.
For a scholarly look at the League of Extraordinary Gentlemen (which I wrote about here), and 13 other ministry projects aimed at men, read Engaging College Men: Discovering What Works and Why, edited by Gar Kellom and Miles Groth.
And for a look at the culture of men in today's society, read Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men by Michael Kimmel.
The incident you related is also described in Fr. Rohr's book Adam's Return:The Five Promises of Male Initiation (p.11-12)
You final point is especially valid.