Loading...
Loading...
Click here if you don’t see subscription options
Photo by Randalyn Hill on Unsplash

Subscribe to “The Examen” for free on Apple Podcasts
Subscribe to “The Examen” for free on Google Play
Join our Patreon Community

It’s the Second Week of Lent, and I bet more than a few people have asked you the question: What are you giving up for Lent? 

Well, instead of giving something up how about doing something positive?  How about this: Be kind. And let me suggest a few ways to do that. First: Give people the benefit of the doubt. After all, why not? Everyone is carrying around some sort of burden. Usually one that you don't even know about. So give them a break. Second: Honor the absent. Be kind when you're talking about people who aren’t there. Spiritually speaking, it's essential. It's part of charity. Practically speaking, it makes sense too. Why? Because you'll feel crummy about yourself afterwards. Because the person you're complaining to will probably see you as negative. Finally, because it will probably get back to them. More to the point, it's mean. 

Finally: Don't be a jerk. There is no need to be. Just because you're having a rotten day doesn't mean you have to pass along your misery to someone else. It's important to share your struggles with friends. But being in a bad mood is no excuse for being unpleasant. If you feel you’re moving into that territory, ask yourself a simple question, "Am I being a jerk?" If you're somehow unable to discern that, the look on other people's faces will tell you. 

So for Lent, some advice: Be a kind person!

Comments are automatically closed two weeks after an article's initial publication. See our comments policy for more.

The latest from america

Perhaps no author’s name has appeared in 'America' more often than Flannery O’Connor’s over the years, from a 1956 editorial through to a story just last week.
James T. KeaneMarch 25, 2025
In an interview with Corriere della Sera, the leading Italian daily, Dr. Alfieri revealed much of what happened to the pope during his 38 days in the hospital, and described in some detail the two critical situations where the pope came close to death.
Gerard O’ConnellMarch 25, 2025
Bishop Mark Seitz led a March 24 demonstration and prayer vigil to protest the Trump administration's immigration policy.
People protest against a law to legalize euthanasia as the Spanish Parliament prepares to vote on it in Madrid in this Dec. 17, 2020, file photo. On March 18, 2021, Spain's parliament legalized physician-assisted suicide. (CNS photo/Susana Vera, Reuters)
“Just don’t open the door. They can’t enter without a court order,” Ms. Castellanos recalled her advice to Maricarmen. “If she had opened the door that day her daughter would be dead.”
Bridget RyderMarch 25, 2025