Catholic marriage on the rocks or rebound? Despite low numbers, some see trend turning around

The number of Catholic marriages in the United States is at its lowest point since 1965.

Georgetown University's Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate keeps records of Catholic Church statistics going back to 1965, tracking such things as the total number of priests, the Catholic population of the United States, and the number of baptisms and marriages per year.

The statistics show that while there were over 420,000 Catholic marriages in 1970, that number has dwindled to just over 154,000 for the year 2014.

"There's no definitive answer" for this trend, according to Mark Gray, a senior research associate and poll director at the center. He cited some of the leading hypotheses about the decrease.

"We're seeing an increase in cohabitation," he said, which can "create a hurdle to receiving the sacrament of marriage, depending on the parish or diocese's policies," Gray said in an interview with Catholic News Service. "There's also the notion of a destination wedding trumping the traditional notion of getting married within the church."

And there has been "no increase in Catholics marrying non-Catholics that might lead us to believe that they're marrying in other churches," he explained.

"Some things have changed culturally. ... The church just isn't seen as important" to many young Catholics, Gray remarked.

Tim Staples, director of apologetics at Catholic Answers in El Cajon, California, told CNS that "though a particular bishop may grant permission for a Catholic to be married outside of an actual Catholic church, the law of the church does not permit it, ordinarily speaking.

"And this is fitting," he said. "For Catholics, there must be an official representative of the church present (or a proper dispensation given) in order for there to be a valid marriage, or, we could say, for one to be married 'in the church.' Thus, it is fitting that one be married 'in a church' in order to be properly married 'in the church.'"

The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches that "the celebration of marriage between two Catholic faithful normally takes place during Holy Mass, because of the connection of all the sacraments with the paschal mystery of Christ."

The United States also sees "a very large share (of annulments) that occur in the church globally," according to Gray. "It's a process that takes some effort, sometimes some investment. It's a quasi-legal process, which is simply not practical in some parts of the world like it is in the U.S.," he explained.

However, even the United States is seeing a lower number of annulments, which have dropped from 60,691 in 1985, the earliest data available, to 18,558 last year. "Divorce is becoming less common" in the U.S., according to Gray. "In aggregate terms, fewer marriages means fewer divorces."

Despite these numbers, Gray remains optimistic about the future of the sacrament of matrimony.

"We've seen historically seen changes in the past ... much like the baby-boomer generation. Things were different before World War II. Mass attendance was down, as were baptisms and (sacramental) marriage rates, but the baby-boomer generation saw a time of cultural change, so it's difficult to predict what's going to happen."

With regard to young people in the church, Gray said that "millennials are a little more traditional, a little more romantic and more interested in marrying in the church. They're looking for their soulmate ... so we're starting to see that sort of a cultural shift among the youngest generation of Catholics."

Last October, Jeff and Alice Heinzen, a married couple from Wisconsin, served as auditors to the extraordinary Synod of Bishops on the family. Alice is director of the Office for Marriage and Family Life in the Diocese of La Crosse and Jeff is the president of McDonell Catholic Schools in Chippewa Falls.

At the synod, they said, they "observed a reverence for marriage, a profound love for families and a grave concern for the pastoral challenges that families face across the globe. All of the testimonies, discussions and personal stories gave witness to the light and darkness of family life in every corner of the world.

One of the several "takeaway" messages of the synod for American Catholics, according to the Heinzens, is "to remain accountable to the truths that come from God (when it comes to marriage.) We must never stray or be led away from the Gospel message when we deal with families."

"Perhaps the greatest challenge (to marriage) both here and abroad," they told CNS in a joint email, "is the triumph of self-reliance over self-sacrifice. Today's culture values independence over interdependence. The need to commit oneself to another in marriage makes little sense when the perceived outcome is 'me' and not 'we.'"

However, like Gray, the Heinzens also see a cultural renewal emerging on the Catholic marriage front.

"One of the most positive cultural trends that we see is a shift in catechesis from a child-centered focus to a parent-centered focus," they said. "This trend allows parishes to utilize the basic desire found in most parents' heart to provide the very best for their children. ... This shift in the catechetical approach is bearing great results because parents are learning how to become primary educators for their children."

As the U.S. bishops' 2006 teaching statement "Married Love and the Gift of Life" puts it, marriage "is a lifelong commitment of love between a man and woman. It is an intimate partnership which husbands and wives learn to give and receive love unselfishly, and then teach their children to do so as well.

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ed gleason
5 years 7 months ago
The answer to the why is there such a huge decline in Catholic Church sacramental weddings is as plain as the nose on any heirarchs face... As a couple we gave marriage prep to thousands of couples.-[1978-1999] It was our observation that 95% of the time it was the woman who picked the venue to be married in.. Hello?? Hello?? The vast majority of raised Catholic women DO NOT WANT TO BE MARRIED IN A CATHOLIC CHURCH. Have Georgetown ask them why...No Forgetaboutit ... we all can make believe we don't know why. . Pope Francis asks that we make room for women in the Church and most hierarchs have their fingers in their ears and prattle on about no altar girls , no ordination even minor orders, no openings to family planning, no openings to allowing the divorced and re-married to be welcomed home. Keep it exclusive and when us oldsters die, call a real estate guy and sell it all. Ed & Peg Gleason.
ed gleason
5 years 7 months ago
For those needing visual proof .take another look at the women facing the priest in the lead article and look at their expression and body language...caption above their heads... "Got a new idea? We heard all that already'
Sandi Sinor
5 years 7 months ago
The article attempts to paint an optimistic picture, but the reality looks a bit different. According to CARA, in 1965 there were 46.3 million Catholics associated with a parish in the US (about 2 million fewer than "self-identified" Catholics). There were 352,458 marriages, and 1.310 million infant baptisms. In 2014, although there were 66.6 million Catholics associated with parishes - there were only 154,450 marriages and only 713,302 baptisms - very dramatic drops in absolute numbers, but far worse as a percentage of the total Catholic population, which grew by 20 million during the same time period (largely due to immigration). As you note, young women are choosing to marry outside the church. Young adult women are no longer as willing their mothers were to stay Catholic even though angry with the status of women in the church. They are increasingly unwilling to stay in a church where women are seen as less than equal to men, and they are also very unwilling to raise children in a church that treats their sons and daughters quite differently. When young adult women choose to leave the church, their children are not raised in the church either. America had an article two years ago describing the current statistics related to young adult women and the Roman Catholic church. The studies show that the disaffection from the Catholic church and its teachings among young adult women is at an unprecedented level. They are not automatically returning to the church to marry and baptize their children, which was the pattern in previous generations.
Steve Beirne
5 years 7 months ago
We are currently involved in marriage preparation (and have been for over 30 years). A big difference we see in couples coming to the church for marriage these days is that they're coming because they choose to - very few are trying to please parents or grandparents which used to be pretty common. So while the numbers are down, the numbers are a truer indication of people actively choosing a Catholic marriage. Also, since marriages in society as a whole are down, is the Catholic proportion significantly different? The big marriage crisis, however, is socioeconomic - marriage is now more a middle class choice to the detriment of poorer folks who could really use the stability that marriage provides. I hope we as a church will find a way to address that.

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