Click here if you don’t see subscription options
Jake MartinMay 18, 2009

My mother recently told me that when I was in my teens and early 20s she was concerned that I would be lured into joining a religious cult. &ampampldquoYou are highly suggestible,&rdquo she remarked, as she turned up the volume on the television to hear about Oprah's latest spiritual breakthrough. "You are a follower, not a leader.&rdquo Thanks, Mom!

But she had a point. Ultimately I joined the Jesuits, which some might consider a cult of sorts. In truth, I have always been one to jump on a bandwagon. I wore parachute pants in the 1980s, flannel in the 1990s and was unemployed in the 2000s. So when everyone around me seemed to be Facebook-ing, it made perfect sense for me to do the same.

Facebook is a cyber phenomenon that began as a networking tool for college students. It was opened up to the general public approximately two years ago, and since then its popularity has skyrocketed. (I should preface my Facebook story by saying that I joined its predecessor, MySpace, at the same time, not knowing the difference between the two.) Fairly ignorant of the advances made in cyberspace over the past couple of years, I had contented myself with reading blogs and arguing with perfect strangers on tennis message boards. As it turned out, MySpace is a gigantic moment of spiritual desolation, as St. Ignatius Loyola might say it screams seedy underbelly. After about 15 minutes and seven "friend&rdquo requests all beginning with the word, "Lonely?&rdquo I decided that MySpace might not, in fact, be the space for me.

Facebook, by contrast, is a land of rarefied air, all cool whites and airy blues. Simple fonts, without gaudy serifs, do not spoil its intentional simplicity. It is a gorgeous model of technological beauty. If it were a country, the trains would always run on time.

There is a lot to love about Facebook. It has proven to be a wonderful way to catch up with old friends from high school and college. It is also an easy way to keep up with those people in your life you just do not have the time to call or e-mail regularly. You can post quick messages on your friend's "wall,&rdquo a sort of cyber bulletin board, and post pictures of yourself and your friends that can subsequently be organized into albums. You can also use your various pictures to change your profile picture, the image that serves to project the message you want to send out to the universe, a sort of a cyber tattoo, if you will. This is your opportunity to show the world who you are, your existential moment it is right there for everyone to see.

So what is the problem with Facebook? All of the above. Not to be brutal, but there is a good reason I am not in touch with friends from high school: I am not the same person I was then, which is a good thing for all the people in my life now. I do not want to relive my high school angst that is why God invented the sacrament of confession, so I can kneel in a dark closet-like space and spill out the secrets of my past, leave them there, and never, ever, deal with them again.

Yet every time I log on to Facebook there is someone like Dmitri Perivoliotis "friending&rdquo me (why do all new cultural phenomena have to turn nouns into verbs?) and sending me notes like, "Remember how Mike Rogers would launch spitballs at you during Mr. Fowler's class?&rdquo Thanks, Dmitri, for reminding me how I had to sit through the whole of ninth-period algebra with spitballs resting atop my coarse mop of curls, tears rolling down my acne-laden cheeks. Mr. Fowler, who had his own problems, what with being 112 years old, took no notice of my misery, nor of the fact that there were other students in the classroom.

The other big problem with Facebook is that it's boring. Anyone with whom I would communicate by e-mail or phone, I would communicate with by e-mail or phone. And any person I would not communicate with by e-mail or phone-well, I would not communicate with them at all.

So Facebook has, for all intents and purposes, become a way for me to acquire as many "friends&rdquo as possible with whom I will never have to communicate again. The creators must have realized that the acquisition of friends was about the only thing that was going to keep people coming back. For the most part, there really is not much to do once you have posted all of your likes, dislikes and your relationship status, and once you've tried the special applications that have about as much chance of keeping your interest as 99 percent of the programming aired on EWTN. The layout is designed so that you are continually reminded of the numerical count of your friends. This can only lead to feelings of inadequacy, especially since it is so easy to keep track of how many "friends&rdquo your "friends&rdquo have. This sort of thing brings out the competitor in me. I want to win and will do whatever it takes to have more "friends&rdquo than anyone else, just so long as I don't ever have to be in contact with them.

Ultimately, Facebook is just another way of giving people the illusion that they are participating in the world without having to leave the isolated confines of their cubicle, office or bedroom. Promoted as a networking tool, it serves primarily as a sort of existential device that allows people to categorize their life experience and interests while simultaneously shutting them off from the very life they are trying to present to the world.

Comments are automatically closed two weeks after an article's initial publication. See our comments policy for more.
Leonard Villa
14 years 7 months ago
Nice job and a well-needed critique.
14 years 7 months ago
While not your intended purpose, my favorite part is the vivid contrasting of MySpace vs. Facebook.
14 years 7 months ago
A pre-emptive dismissal of a communication tool that collapses space and time and enables many of us to keep in touch with far-flung family and friends on a day-to-day basis. It also promotes interactivity and salon-type discussions of politics, religion, and philosophy. The tool is neither panecea or worthless. The value lies in how it can be used, and the value may vary depending upon one's personality and predelictions, and even one's stage in life. I am 52 years old, active and engaged in my community. Facebook heightens my engagement--it does not substitute for it.
14 years 6 months ago
This is a terrible article from a Jesuit. While I, myself, am a Facebook user and was interested in the topic, I find it problematic that you take jabs at the Church by comparing your religious order to a cult of sorts and consider confession to be a dumping ground for your existential trash. Your article lacks the depth of analysis I would have expected from a young Jesuit scholastic, and your dismissive attitudes toward the Church (I doubt St. Ignatius would be screaming anything of the sort) make me a little less proud to have been Jesuit educated. Lastly, I am surprised that America has published this it is very poorly edited.
14 years 6 months ago
Facebook is what you make of it. Some of us do find it a tool with great potential for subtle, persistent, and effective evangelization. Many of the people on FB are looking for something that Catholic faith can provide, and it can provide an avenue to invite reflection beyond just "what am I doing now."
14 years 5 months ago
I see in the screen grab that J. Martin has 82 unread notifications!!! This tells me he does not even know how to use Facebook, because once he clicks on the little red number bubble ("82" in this case), it will reset back to zero - i.e. 82 things have happened on Facebook (his friends writing to him, or someone else commenting after him on a stutus update) and he has totally ignored them!!! Maybe he should learn how to use Facebook before writing a review condemning it. Instead, he is yet another person attacking Facebook before he's even given it a try long enough to learn how to use it. In the past when people lived in smaller towns, they got to know one another and kept an eye out for each other. Today, people can move to a new city and only have a small group of friends, and no family, and not be part of a larger community. Facebook brings back the social connectivity of the small-town communities. I live alone, but I have so many active Facebook friends that I always feel I am a part of a community. I can post a status update and a few minutes later my friends have commented. It's almost as good as in the past when I used to live at home with my large family, and I would be doing work but there was always someone in the next room to chat with once or twice an hour. It's like that with Facebook - I'm busy doing my own thing, but I can call out to my friends online, and get a response, and feel connected to other human beings. Facebook has been a huge factor in improving my quality of life, by strengthening my connections with other people.
14 years 3 months ago

So True So True!!!!! Great article... Do you have a blog? I would love to subscribe to your "tweets" :):)

The latest from america

A Homily for the Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception of the Blessed Virgin Mary, by Father Terrance Klein
Terrance KleinDecember 07, 2023
Since Oct. 7, a fascinating dynamic has emerged: the Jewish and Palestinian narratives we see posted on social media have converged—with the protagonists and antagonists reversed.
Joshua StantonDecember 07, 2023
Gender roles in the church need not be a zero-sum game.
Colleen DulleDecember 07, 2023
Bradley Cooper's new Leonard Bernstein biopic, "Maestro," offers a portrait of a soul that struggled to determine which direction it wanted to take in the world of classical music.
Doug GirardotDecember 07, 2023