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Eugene T. GomulkaAugust 27, 2001

While serving as the deputy chaplain of the U.S. Marine Corps, with supervisory responsibility for some 250 chaplains from some 60 different faith groups, I was discouraged by the disproportionate number of Catholic chaplains who were committing offenses that resulted either in their imprisonment or separation from the military. While priests comprised about 20 percent of the chaplains, they accounted for about 50 percent of the serious offenses. My first response was to wonder why Catholics tended to get into trouble more often than Protestants, who comprised over 75 percent of the chaplains but accounted for less than 50 percent of the problems. Closer examination revealed that it was neither a Catholic nor a Protestant problem, but rather an issue of living alone or with others.

After careful study, what I discovered was that chaplains who lived alone tended to be tempted more than chaplains who lived with a spouse and, often, children. This is not only true for chaplains, but also for officers and enlisted personnel. For this reason the military has long viewed marriage as advantageous in reducing disciplinary problems among its personnel. Further study revealed that while a relatively small percentage of married Protestant chaplains got into trouble as a result of adulterous behavior punishable under the Uniform Code of Military Justice, a much larger percentage of priests were imprisoned or separated as a result of homosexual conduct.

In the past, military chaplains generally lived alone, while their civilian priest counterparts often lived in large urban parishes in the company of other priests. This picture is beginning to change as the number of Catholics increases and the number of priests decreases. While the priest-to-lay ratio in 1978 was approximately 1 priest for every 1,800 Catholics worldwide, the ratio today, with over one billion Catholics, is approximately 1 to 2,500. An increasing number of parishes that once had two or three priests are today finding themselves with just one priest to minister to larger congregations. With more diocesan priests living alone, like military chaplains, bishops must be prepared to deal with the consequences.

One effect of additional one-priest parishes will be an increase in the number of health and disciplinary problems on the part of priests who find themselves “home alone.” With the pressure of pastoring large parishes without the support of brother priests will come the temptation to escape from loneliness and stress by various mechanisms (e.g., alcohol, drugs and sex). Even with the development of various lay ministries over the past years, pastoring alone a parish of 2,000 to 3,000 families is far more stressful than caring for a parish with only 500 families. As the number of large, one-priest parishes increases, bishops and personnel directors should anticipate that more of their priests may be hospitalized or possibly face incarceration as they find themselves attempting to deal with the pressures of their demanding parish responsibilities.

Another consequence of more one-priest parishes will be earlier retirement by priests. Most dioceses have retirement policies that anticipate priests’ remaining active in the ministry until they are 70 or 75 years old. Ordinarily, priests today can retire in their 60’s only for documented health reasons. If priests are able to remain active until they reach 75, it is generally because they are assisted by one or two priests who do much of the parish “leg work.” Today, however, if a parish has grown considerably and the priest in his late 60’s finds himself alone without the help of one or two associates, why should we be surprised that he does not want to stay on until he is 75? As a result, more priests will either die or retire before they reach current mandatory retirement ages. And with priests being ordained older and retiring younger, larger numbers of priests will have to be ordained to maintain even current staffing levels. For example, it would take 200 priests ordained at 39 and retired at 65 to equal 100 priests in the past who were ordained at 26 and retired at 75. Hence, an increase in the number of ordinations in some dioceses does not necessarily mean that the number of priests in those dioceses has increased.

A third effect of more one-priest parishes will be a tendency to lower recruiting standards. As more priests get into trouble living alone and more retire at an earlier age, the growing demand to replace these priests will tempt vocation directors to accept candidates they would not have accepted in the past. But if recruiting standards are lowered, other qualified candidates will be discouraged from entering the priesthood, and qualified priests may be tempted to leave the priesthood rather than associate with the newly recruited, less qualified ministers. Current attempts to solve the priest shortage by importing priests from developing nations and recruiting increasing numbers of homosexual candidates are creating changes in the ethnic face and sexual orientation of the American priesthood. Such developments could have long-term and serious consequences for the future of Catholic ministry in the United States.

After I concelebrated Mass with one Catholic chaplain who was confined to a military brig, the chaplain told me how, tempted in his loneliness, he did something that he deeply regretted. Following lunch in the priest’s cell, I went to the home of a Protestant chaplain friend for dinner and listened as he offered grace, thanking God most especially for the love and support of his wife, who enhanced his ministry. Driving home that night, lamenting the predicament of the imprisoned priest but rejoicing in the ministry of the Lutheran chaplain, I could understand a little better why Jesus sent his disciples out “two by two” (Lk. 10:1) and why “God said, ‘It is not good for man to be alone’” (Gen. 2:18).

While it may be years before the pope and bishops seriously consider other forms of priestly ministry beyond the current celibate-male model, it is not too early for the laity to become more sensitive and supportive of priests, particularly those who live alone while pastoring large parishes. If bishops are primarily charged with the care of priests who are responsible for ministering to the laity, then bishops would be wise to admonish the laity to refrain from making excessive demands that are beyond the means of priests, whose median age today is 59 and rising. Unfortunately, some members of the laity unrealistically expect and demand the same degree of service from their pastors that was possible when their parishes were staffed by two or three priests. It would be encouraging if, instead of complaining to the bishop that their pastor will not be celebrating midnight Mass this year along with six other Christmas Masses, larger numbers of laypeople were more affirming and helpful in lightening the burden of their aging priests.

When a woman from a base complained about the Catholic chaplain who left the military to marry, I asked her what she had done to let the chaplain know that he was loved. With the belief that celibacy works both ways, I inquired if she ever invited the priest over for dinner or sent him a card on his birthday or at Christmas. If her husband did not show his gratitude in tangible ways especially on special occasions, might she be moved to question whether her husband really loved her? Why should one be surprised if some priests question the love of their parishioners or leave active ministry when their many acts of service often go unacknowledged?

It has been said, “the greatest gift a father can give his children is to love their mother.” I suggest that the greatest way to promote vocations to the priesthood and religious life is by returning the celibate love of priests and nuns. People are more encouraged to consider marriage when they witness husbands and wives involved in loving relationships. Young people will likewise be encouraged to consider a religious vocation if they see their parents generously returning love given by dedicated and caring priests and religious.

If the Lord chose to send out the apostles “two by two” (Mk. 6:7) and a further 72 other disciples “two by two” (Lk. 10:1), could it have been that he did not want his priests and ministers to be alone? If Jesus himself did not lead a solitary existence, but exercised his ministry in the company of his Apostles, would he himself support the direction in which the priesthood is moving—where more and more priests are living by themselves? Apart from priests who are members of religious orders and who enjoy the support of fellow priests in community, diocesan bishops need to consider both the theological basis and psychological wisdom of large one-priest parishes. Both the recruitment of future candidates and the retention of current priests could be affected by the outcome of such a study.

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17 years 5 months ago
Drawing on his experience as supervisory chaplain in the U. S. Marine Corps, Msgr. Eugene T. Gomulka explores the damaging consequences of the “aloneness” facing priests in today’s one-priest parishes (“‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood,” 8/27). He points out how different this is from the ministry of Jesus, who although celibate did not lead a solitary life because he was supported by a loving band of Apostles. However, Jesus’ unique “Abba” relationship with God may be an even more significant difference. This extraordinary relationship with God was the source Jesus continually turned to for emotional sustenance. The passage in Jn. 14:7-14, “I am in the Father and the Father is in me,” describes an unequivocal, unwavering absolute oneness with God that is not accessible to us ordinary mortals. Only after we leave this earthly life behind can we hope for anything like the oneness with God Jesus relied on during his earthly life. During our earthly lives, the emotionally close togetherness of a loving marriage is the most effective human source we can turn to for emotional sustenance—a source the priesthood may now need.

17 years 5 months ago
At a recent social gathering of priests—a dozen or so—I asked for a show of hands of all who had friends among the laity, whom they had not known prior to ordination, who called them by their first name. All hands went up. Then I asked how many addressed by first name a bishop whom they had not known prior to his episcopal ordination. This time there was one raised hand. I thought of this when I read Msgr. Eugene T. Gomulka’s observations about aloneness contributing to clerical malfeasance (“‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood” (8/27).

Forty-two years ago, when I was ordained, there was a clerical caste system, a tightly-closed circle that widened just enough to admit each newly ordained man. It was within this circle that we lived and moved and had our being, socially. The fresh air of Vatican II and its emphasis on all the baptized as the church has broken down this caste system. This is beautiful and wholesome, but it has resulted in the breakdown of what was previously a support system for the priests. This system has not been supplanted by support from the bishops—not an institutional support, but a warm, fraternal support. Until some changes are made—alluded to by Monsignor Gomulka—priests will be in this “Home Alone” condition: lacking a real sense of fraternity with bishops and bereft of identity with the laity. This equals aloneness. (I would hazard the guess that bishops struggle with this issue also.)

17 years 5 months ago
I wish to comment on the article “‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood” (8/27) by Msgr. Eugene T. Gomulka—not to comment on Msgr. Gomulka’s theory about loneliness in the priesthood, but on what I fear could be an unfortunate generalization drawn from the article’s subheading, “Why did Catholic chaplains get into trouble more often than Protestants?”

I entered the Navy Chaplain Corps in 1960 and served on active duty until 1986 in assignments that included that of detailer or director of personnel assignments for Navy chaplains of all faiths, as well as in other senior command assignments. Since retiring from the Navy, I have served the military archbishop, acting for the past 10 years as his vicar for chaplains.

By unfortunate coincidence, the years 1992 to 1994—while Monsignor Gomulka served as deputy chaplain for the Marine Corps—proved to be the most difficult of my years as vicar for chaplains. A total of four Navy priests serving as Marine Corps chaplains had serious problems. Two were sentenced to terms in the brig, and two were permitted to resign. In that same time period, there were no comparable situations in any other branch of the military. To the best of my knowledge, nothing as serious as that had ever happened before in the history of the military ordinariate. I can testify that such a situation has not recurred.

Through our history as an ordinariate, there have been problems of misconduct involving individual priests; but as I have stated, I fear the generalization that could be drawn.

Based upon my 41 years of serving with military chaplains, I can state—with the concurrence of chaplains of other faiths whose military service included personnel responsibilities—that Catholic chaplains in general have not been a disciplinary problem in the military.

I reaffirm the military archdiocese’s pride in its priests, including Monsignor Gomulka, and its gratitude for their dedicated service. That pride and gratitude I am sure is shared by the Catholic military personnel of our nation and their families, to whom our priests have ministered and still minister with great dedication, courage, generosity and faithfulness to their priesthood.

17 years 5 months ago
In “‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood” (8/27), Msgr. Eugene Gomulka addresses a very important issue. He, however, seems to have equated the ministry of chaplaincy with systemic issues within the military and the priesthood. His myopic analysis of the situation misses the larger issue for priest conduct and places the resolution with the non-clerics.

Living alone does not in itself create temptations. Nor does living singly create the following of these invitations to infidelity to the vows, promises and commitment of priesthood (or religious life). The real resolution for the problems Monsignor Gomulka address is in the transformation of the system of priests’ isolation and lack of healthy and honest community-building among and with their brother priests and bishops.

This calls for pastoral leadership on the part of the bishops, who are able to set an environment of trust, community, genuine love and deep prayer with and among priests. The problem is a relational one within the priesthood itself and needs to be addressed there. It isn’t about the parishioners’ (and especially not just the women) showing gratitude and love. Gratitude and love within the church should be a giving and receiving in which the pastor/priest and congregants share equally. But Father can only do it if he is nourished and nurtured at home—within the priesthood and by his bishop.

17 years 5 months ago
I read “‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood” by Msgr. Eugene T. Gomulka (8/27) with mixed feelings. I believe with every fiber of my being that as a church we simply do not love well. It is difficult to be finite. Finite humans simply fall short when trying to turn Catholic Christian vision—Jesus’ vision—into a lived reality. I agree with Monsignor Gomulka that a church that envisions ordination as a sacrament needs to envision also a way to have clergy and laity engage in supportive, caring, ongoing, loving relationships. Where priests are left to hang alone—or where they encourage people to leave them alone—the vision of church is rendered less effective. Lives of humans are turned unnecessarily into struggle. We simply must do better—at the parish level, to care for those we ordain, and at the seminary level, to enable those ordained to prepare themselves to accept genuine caring when it is offered.

I was, however, saddened and disturbed to see this conversation set in the context of married versus unmarried clergy, in the additional context of homosexuality and adultery. First, I am not at all sure that as humans we deal equally with issues like adultery and homosexuality. We rarely witch-hunt married infidelity at the same level that we do homosexuality, and neither should be a crime. Second, I know—as a convert to Roman Catholicism who has survived at the parish leadership level unhappy clergy marriages, clergy divorces and clergy marriages struggling with infidelity—that it simply isn’t true that the married model provides a guarantee of the support necessary for people ordained to serve Jesus Christ and the people of God. In addition, as a recent graduate of a non-Catholic seminary actively involved even now in the formation of non-Catholic clergy, it is not true that marriage has enabled denominations to solve the “clergy crisis.” Marriage is only one of a host of reasons that influence a person’s choice to become ordained. It is unfair to the struggle of celibate clergy and married clergy alike to see one as the problem and the other as the solution.

Thank you for your magazine. For all of you in orders and religious life, thank you for your lives lived differently than the rest, and to your staff thanks for being present to make this endeavor happen and to enable this kind of life witness.

17 years 5 months ago
The article by Msgr. Eugene T. Gomulka, “‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood” (8/27), provides an excellent picture of the problems priests face in today’s society. Monsignor Gomulka makes an excellent point when he discusses the stress and pressures on a priest who is running a large parish by himself. The one point that is questionable, though, has to do with the idea of other forms of priesthood beyond the “current celibate-male model.” The author makes it seem inevitable that the church will look into other options because of this current lack of clergy. This question is certainly not unfounded. But Monsignor Gomulka does not bring up other relevant issues. It could be that the church is not encouraging and promoting vocations as it should be. Also, it may be worthwhile to analyze this issue from a historical perspective and investigate reasons behind clerical shortages in the past. Furthermore, his view of the perfect life of the married Protestant minister seems very naïve. A more thorough discussion of these topics is much needed.

17 years 5 months ago
Msgr. Eugene Gomulka offers important insight into the relationship between priest and parishioner in “‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood” (8/27). Although he suggests that parishioners need to offer support and encouragement to their priests, deacons and trained lay ecclesial ministers have an even greater responsibility to offer their priests that same encouragement and appreciation. Those who collaborate in formal ministry with the priest, albeit in a different ministry from his, have a special obligation to minister to their co-worker. It would be good for diocesan bishops and directors of diaconate and lay ministry formation to provide such guidance to those in formation.

17 years 5 months ago
As I read “‘Home Alone’ in the Priesthood,” by Monsignor Eugene Gomulka (8/27), I was struck by a rather distressing thought: “They complain endlessly about the lack of new blood in the priesthood and its effects, but they never seem to propose anything to remedy it.” It is universally accepted that ordinations are declining and will continue to do so in the foreseeable future. Why should this be so? If other professions recruit, why not the priesthood?

Is it unrealistic to think that today’s youth aren’t ready to listen? Music is often an excellent indicator of trends within the teenage community. If one were to use it to measure the faith of teenagers, one would come to the conclusion that religious faith is alive and well among members of the MTV generation. Christian rock is one of the fastest growing industries in the country, enjoying a rise so meteoric that it was featured on the cover of Newsweek, one of the country’s most widely read weekly publications. Church youth groups are springing up left and right, often with membership numbered in the hundreds. A Gallup poll (4/99) found “support for the idea of undergirding life with spiritual moorings.”

To say that a trend toward hurried, overworked, anxiety-ridden, lonely priests doing ever more work is irreversible is to take a self-defeating attitude. Churches need to find teens where they spend most of their time and to suppress any shyness they might have about seeking out potential members of the priesthood. Tomorrow’s priests are out there, if only the church would look for them.

17 years 5 months ago
In commenting on “Home Alone in the Priesthood” (8/27), the letter contributor Marilyn Kramer (9/17) quotes Jn. 14:7-14, “I am in the Father and the Father is in me,” but misses the point when she says that Jesus represents “an absolute oneness with God that is not accessible to us ordinary mortals.”

Continuing in his farewell address, Jesus said, “ you will realize that I am in my Father and you are in me and I in you” (Jn. 14:20-21). The goal of all religions is, or should be, union with God. Jesus tells us he wants this for us in a most intimate, penetrating, permeating way. After all, Jesus’ life was lived not for himself, but for us. God created us in love, not for separation or alienation, but for eternal oneness with himself.

Though priests on the human level need community and companionship, a priest basically should never be lonely, because he, like all baptized Catholics, is called to be a temple of the Holy Spirit, in union with God.

We can learn from Mother Teresa, who would repeat over and over: “I myself am nothing and can do nothing. If anything is done, it is the eucharistic Christ living within me and acting through me.”

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