How D.C. Catholics are leading the response to the clergy sexual abuse scandal

Cardinal Theodore E. McCarrick, retired archbishop of Washington, arrives for the Jan. 6 installation Mass of Cardinal Joseph W. Tobin at the Cathedral Basilica of the Sacred Heart in Newark, N.J. (CNS photo/Bob Roller) 

This week marks one year since the release of the Pennsylvania grand jury report, which detailed the alleged crimes of hundreds of priests over seven decades and brought the sexual abuse crisis in the Catholic Church back into the national spotlight.

The failure of church leadership to stop clerical sexual abuse hit Catholics in Washington, D.C., hard. Two months before the grand jury report, claims of abuse against former cardinal Theodore McCarrick, then archbishop emeritus of Washington, became public. In October, Pope Francis accepted the resignation of Cardinal Donald W. Wuerl, then the archbishop of Washington, who had been criticized for his handling of abusive priests during his time as the bishop of Pittsburgh. A few months later, McCarrick was laicized by Pope Francis.

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In the wake of last summer’s news, my parish, Holy Trinity Catholic Church in Washington, D.C., embarked on a “Season of Discernment.” We asked: How could a local parish help heal serious wounds—especially wounds of trust born of the scandal—for survivors and their families as well as the broader community of lay faithful? How might we avoid getting stuck in the status quo and move forward to enact meaningful change?

The failure of church leadership to stop clerical sexual abuse hit Catholics in Washington, D.C., hard.

As a member of Holy Trinity’s parish pastoral council and a parent with two boys at Holy Trinity School, I participated in a dialogue with Hans Zollner, S.J., the president of the Centre for Child Protection at the Pontifical Gregorian University in Rome. Hearing my description of our Season of Discernment, Father Zollner responded, “I can feel that you own it, and that is what will ultimately change the face of the church.”

As I reflect on this past year, I wonder: What does it mean to “own it”?

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A response to the crisis had become our parish’s priority. Guided by an Ignatian discernment process, we integrated our response throughout parish activities and became closer as a community. Our Ignatian spirituality and Jesuit identity committee drafted articles on the elements of discernment for our parish bulletin, and the education committee hosted speakers on church history and structure to provide a backdrop to our recommendations.

Other outcomes included a lay-led prayer service in February prior to the gathering of the presidents of bishops’ conferences in Rome to discuss the protection of minors; the award of grants to local organizations that support survivors of sexual abuse and their families; and the development of a page on our website with links to articles and other resources.

How could a local parish help heal serious wounds for survivors and their families as well as the broader community of lay faithful?

The five Jesuits at the parish walked with us during our Season of Discernment. They addressed the scandal forthrightly in homilies. And when the Maryland Province released names of Jesuits credibly accused of sexual abuse, Kevin Gillespie, S.J., the pastor of Holy Trinity, sent a message to all parishioners expressing a heartfelt apology to victims.

One of the most important outcomes of our Season of Discernment has been what we have learned from the process itself. Within the first three months, we hosted 12 listening sessions, inviting parishioners to express what weighed heaviest on their hearts—and the responses were raw. One parishioner described a sentiment shared by many:

The pain endured by children that has left so many lives broken or shattered, or somehow less than what might have been. [This] weighs the heaviest.... I’m also very sad to see the names of priests that I knew growing up in the news now. And I wonder what we still don’t know.

We sought to channel our anguish to support meaningful reforms. In November, 130 parishioners outlined steps to move forward, including prayer, support to survivors and their families and efforts to increase inclusion, transparency and accountability in the church.

In April, we held a second parish-wide forum to take stock of where we were and offer support for parishioner-led actions. We learned how parishioners’ work took the form of prayer, education and action. We have begun building a network with other parishes and Catholic institutions of higher education that “own” the issue as well, to support each other’s voices and actions. Through this process, we have learned the following lessons.

At all times, we are sensitive to the possibility that we may be speaking with survivors who have not identified themselves to us.

The tools and principles of Ignatian spirituality help us navigate our path forward. The Ignatian presupposition reminds us to attribute good intentions to each other during the difficult conversations that inevitably arise in the context of the clerical sexual abuse scandal. We adapted the Ignatian Examen to serve as the closing prayer at the end of each open forum.

The needs and perspectives of all who suffered harm from clergy sexual abuse are paramount. We cannot assume we understand the depth of our fellow parishioners’ pain. The events of last summer prompted conversations—in some cases about stories hidden for years—and revealed a ripple effect of harm that the scourge of sexual abuse and failures of leadership caused in families, parishes and broader communities. The ripple effect includes the guilt felt by those close to victims who unknowingly encouraged relationships with priest abusers and the broad sense of betrayal by a church our parents taught us to love.

In developing our process, we consulted with those who suffered harm directly from clergy sexual abuse. But we also know some suffer silently. At all times, we are sensitive to the possibility that we may be speaking with survivors who have not identified themselves to us.

The way we facilitate conversations fosters inclusion.Our restorative justice ministry helped refine the listening session process by incorporating a circle seating format and a “talking piece,” a small cross or another small object that was passed from speaker to speaker to promote respect for the voice of each participant as an equal contributor. This helped ensure the incorporation of multiple voices into our discernment process. We used a similar format during the parish open forum, and the parish pastoral council gathered in a circle to reflect on the Season of Discernment and recommit to our leadership role. 

Collaboration with others whoown the response to the sexual abuse scandal increases our chances of effecting change. In addition to telling us that he sensed that we “own it,” Father Zollner reminded us that “you have many allies, this is not the only parish.... So we are more than we think, and this is something that we should build on.” We look forward to working with other Catholic leaders, parishes and universities to build on what we have done. Together we will transform our season of discernment into a season of hope.

Jason & Amy Rogers
6 days 12 hours ago

Thank you for your leadership, Kathleen. We own it, too, at our Jesuit parish St. Ignatius Loyola in Sacramento. We have pursued some similar things including listening sessions and educational events organized by the committee we call "It's Our Church." I think our committee leaders have been in contact with the Washington parish. As powerful as all this has been for us, I feel we're hitting a wall because church structures do not generally respond to bottom-up movements from the laity. Perhaps that will change.

arthur mccaffrey
6 days 10 hours ago

do not let institutional structures and rigidity deter you from continuing this important work. You the people of God, are the Church, not some medieval princes from the Vatican monarchy. Do not ask for permission to do what you think needs to be done.

John Mack
6 days 7 hours ago

Sadly, I am not surprised that lay people are wiser than the Catholic hierarchy. Lay people are still capable of ethical thinking and moral discernment instead of the blind obedience and church nationalistic thinking among the bishops. By church nationalistic thinking I mean, "My church, right or wrong; ordained and chosen priests with a special mark on their souls, right or wrong; church holy reputation, deserved or not, right or wrong.""

Molly Roach
5 days 10 hours ago

A group of Catholics from the Philadelphia have been providing leadership on matters related to the abuse of children by priests for the past seven years in a blog entitled Catholics For Change. There has been quite a bit of service and support provided to victims through this blog, check it out!

Oz Jewel
5 days 9 hours ago

What on earth did this article say? We have had grave talks amongst ourselves taking ourselves very seriously and have been doing a wonderful job.
What? You want to restore your comfortable dream world where it is fine to sub-contract your parenting to religious people so you can get on with your important process of professional advancement and increasing prosperity free of the burden of having to worry about the kids?

What about home schooling for the very young?
What about free access to all classrooms and seminar spaces and laboratories and chapels and sports areas including changing rooms to parents unannounced and uninvited at any time?

What about all confessionals being glass walled and in prominently visible positions?
What about the second rite of reconciliation ONLY for minors?
What about insisting that ordination or consecration does NOT make a person competent to council?

What about candidates for the priesthood chosen by the parish community in an appropriate fashion and trained AS DAY STUDENTS for their full formation?

What about we will not call a presbyter FATHER, in obedience to the clear instruction of the New Testament? Reverend, Vicar, Pastor or Minister will do quite as well and not deceive children and simple people that they can be trusted as a parent.

Jeffrey More
4 days 21 hours ago

Good points, especially your description of the gist of this article. If what the author describes her parish as having “done” accurately describes the entirety of the “actions” taken, they have in effect “done” nothing - they’ve prayed a lot, they’ve listened to a letter of apology from their pastor, they’ve listened to each other’s views (including in some sort of tribal circle, complete with totem), they’ve labeled a period time a “Season of Discernment”, they’ve “ walked with” Jesuits of their own parish (whatever that means). I am not denigrating any of this . I would suggest, however, that to describe this program of dynamic stagnation as “leadership” is a bit of hyperbole.

Sunny Solomon
1 day 15 hours ago

Prayer, listening, walks and discernment (a word I have never been clear on) are, I suppose, useful. But why are we not asking the important questions: Why have so many bishops protected the abusers?; Why are civil authorities not notified? What does the church really fear? Do we Catholics really believe that prayer and discernment are the same things as justice? And why aren't we Catholics demanding, loudly and clearly, justice for the abused?

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